Welcome new readers! I write for an L.A. audience and beyond, so others can laugh at us here in this “dyslexic windy city.” Just watch the flags and you’ll see what I mean. I am writing a book, What It Took To Convince NBC The Winds Are Coming From The West, and “Offshore Winds, The Musical.” (The winds are really onshore: just watch, and you’ll see.:-))
I am not an M.D. but Ph.D. in Geography, so am intuitive, global, and integrative rather than physiological in my understanding of the insides of the human body. I read faces and know how people feel; but I’m not judgmental, I’m a mom, so my chemical urge is to fix sadness. I want people to be well fed and happy like all moms chemically do, the way men want to make love with all attractive women, or almost. It’s an instinct, but women don’t sin when we feed people; and that’s why men are angry at us for their attraction to us: they can’t shake it off or solve their urges so easily.
Last night on Jay Leno, Sigourney Weaver said she was the one who first asked her husband to dance, have dinner, and to marry him:
Guys, don’t wait for this. It’s not the least bit romantic for us, or the guys. Men are programmed genetically to hunt, court, persist, and compete, not wait around. It’s survival of the fittest, and passive males die childless and ‘wifeless’ in the animal world.
Einstein said, “If you watch nature, everything will become more clear.”
If you’ve watched male birds do courtship dances, the girl birds usually can’t be bothered.
In all classic romantic movies, love triangles have 2 men.
In the animal world, females who court are crocodiles, carnivores.
Just think about it.
In the most expensive movie ever made, Avatar at $310 million, Sigourney Weaver said special effects may bring people, but what they’ll remember is “the very traditional use of archetype and romance that give the sweeping alien epic its very human heart. I think it’s an astonishing movie to look at, but what I love…is it is a great, old-fashioned love story.”
(Geoff Boucher, “Weaver is at home out of this world, L.A. Times, 12/17/09, D1.)
Maybe it didn’t need all those millions.
During the holidays, I know of no one’s emotional needs which are genuinely met, and that’s why I like to ask people’s favorite colors, and give them a decoration in that color. They only cost $2-5 to make, and you should see all the delighted reactions.
TV shows red and green and beautiful warmth at this time of year, and everyone’s “inner child” feels like “the other kids are getting better toys,” better romances, more homemade cooking, more travel, more loving families.
The truth is, those things don’t “happen”: we make the adventure, we create the loving families. If you don’t cook, all around us are establishments where people pray night and day that people like us will come by and buy what they toiled to prepare. Just enjoy it, buy extra and give some away.
Giving releases more happy chemicals in our body than getting. Ask people’s favorite colors, or give them something to eat or something red, or ask if they want to go walk and see Christmas lights, or on the beach or a park. Shucks, let it snow.